Don’t let anyone define who you are

I’m feeling all philosophical today and thought I would share what’s on my mind……

When I was younger, I used to be really concerned about how people viewed me. I was the person who if they had an opinion that went against the grain, I would not say anything for fear of being ridiculed. Or would choose my fashion based on what I thought would make me fit in with people more. I hated standing out, because I was scared that by going against the norm, I would attract the unwanted criticism of others.

Now I am older, I have realised that somehow, I have managed to get myself to a place where I am happy with me. I have (in my opinion) grown into a more confident person who does not spend the majority of the time worrying about how people will take what I do, wear or say. Now, my view is that as long as I’m being true to me, being respectful and kind, it doesn’t matter if some people don’t like my decisions. They are mine to make and so are my mistakes. No one controls my life but me. I have realised that to give someone that power, is to say that I believe they are somehow better than me. This is simply not true. Everyone is equal. I am just as worthy of my space on earth as the next person and now I have accepted this, I feel like I can truly begin the work of becoming the best me I can be.

So my advice to anyone who may be going through what I have been through is to never let anyone tell you what you are, who you can be or how far you can go. No one but you has control over your life, your loves, your happiness or your future. Take charge of you. Everyone will have an opinion on what you do, but that does not mean that you need to listen to it all. It is your life and at the end when you look back on it all, you need to be happy with the decisions and choices you have made and the person you are. You cannot live your life for someone else or by someone else’s rules.

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